You Have Already Lost

The thing is, if you’re trying to convince someone that they should be with you, that they should commit to you, that they should love you, you’ve already lost. Hesitation is an answer. Indecisiveness is an answer. As much as we all want to be the exception, statically, it’s just not possible. And it is a dangerous thing to think that you are the exception. It closes you off to the possibility- no, the certainty- that there is someone out there who would never hesitate about you. Love is so much more than a biochemical chain of events that take place in your brain. After initial fleeting feelings, it’s a choice. Its an active decision to choose a person- when they are at their best and at their worst- every single day. Stop wishing to be the exception for someone who isn’t choosing you. The true giddy happiness that keeps you up at night will hit when the person you’ve chosen has chosen you right back- wholeheartedly, undoubtedly chosen you.

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