January was a really busy month for me towards the end. Sorry for the lack of blog posts and random posts. It should be back to everyday in February!
I’ve learned that no matter what happened, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. That you can tell a lot about a person by the way they handle these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go back through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that everyday you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said and did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Honestly, this generation is so pathetic these days. Why? Because people will judge you based off of your past. Honestly, I am someone that accepts someone for their past. If I was not a part of their past when they made their mistakes then I cannot judge them. If they are trying to better themselves from their past mistakes then the best thing I can do is be proud of them, accept them as who they are and continue to help them better themselves. It is low that people will use their past as a trust issue for something in the present or future. If you have something great, hold onto that. Do everything you can to hold onto something that could be so rare to find. If you find someone that sees so much more in you that you see in yourself, do not let them go. Fight for them if they try to leave you because they are accepting you for your past and can see past your past because not many people do, then hold onto that so tight. It is like people these days are so easy to give up on you. They will not try to fight for you if you way away. I just think that if you truly want something fight for it and do everything you can to make it right. Do not take advantage of something that is so great.
Climate change is real. Trump is a terrible choice. Planned Parenthood should be funded. Breastfeeding is natural. Rape, which happens to males and females, is never the victim’s fault. Homosexuals deserve human rights. Transgender people are their preferred gender. Feminism, isn’t about female superiority. Most Muslims aren’t terrorists. Oh, and United States is not a Christian nation.
“How are you?”
The question kind of stops you. Because you’re okay. Your world is still spinning and you’re still smiling and you’re okay. But them sometimes you’re not okay. Not even one little bit. And you don’t really sleep at night anymore because you’re bed is almost as empty as your arms. And there’s a space on your wall where his photo used to hang. And sometimes you can’t even eat because he’s gone and the sick feeling in your stomach just becomes a permanent part of you. And when you kiss someone new and their body doesn’t feel quite right beneath your wandering hands. And sometimes you cry and you don’t think youll ever stop. But you don’t say that. They don’t want to hear that. So you continue to smile and say “I’m okay.”
I am going to go on a little rant. I feel like relationships these days are taken so lightly when they should not be. Every day we should continue to show our significant other that we truly care for them and are all about them. I know that we have all lacked that at least one day throughout one of our relationships. Yes we are going to have bad days but we have to remember that is what our significant other is for, for us to vent, to listen, and to pick up the pieces. The thing I am trying to get at is that I see so many relationships fail because people stop doing the things they did to get that person. Sometimes feelings change and sometimes you end up with someone who is a cheater because in the beginning they make it out to this “perfect” person when really they never were and yes I know nobody is perfect but if you are going to be about someone be about them 110% throughout your relationship. Never half ass a relationship because one day they can wake up and decide that your effort does not fit their expectations and then they end up leaving. A relationship will have its battles and a relationship is going to have its holes but that’s where you two come together and dig deep and show everyone that you can overcome anything that is given to you. So if you are in a relationship and you have that one special person you are all about and nobody else matters, wake up every morning and tell them how blessed you are to have them and do little gestures for them because really it’s the little things that mean the most to us. Remember we are not guaranteed tomorrow so never be afraid of telling that someone how you feel because they may need it. We are only blessed with one special significant other and only blessed to spend forever wht our best friends and the love of our life. Yes we may cross with someone who we thought we were going to spend forever with and they may fail because 1. the lack of effort, 2. They cheater or 3. The feelings are not there anymore because of how they may have changed. But really never take a relationship lightly. Give it your all even though it may be scary as hell putting your heart out there and giving it to someone because they have the ability of shattering it but that one special person will hold onto your heart and not break it and give you their all. Life is too short so do yourself a favor and put in the effort to that one person that means the most to you and if they are not going to return the favor then that person is not for you and there is someone out there that will give you the same amount of love and effort you give them.
- Realize that your bitterness, hatred, or resentment doesn’t affect the other person at all. In fact, they may not know how you feel, and if they do, they may not care.
- Realize the best way to “win” and move on is to live the happiest and best life possible. There’s nothing to match something with your life, feeling satisfied, and enjoying who you are.
- Look for the silver lining in the cloud, and learn what you can from the bad experience. Often, it can make you a much better person – who is kinder, wiser, and better character.
- Remember the people who were there for you, and who helped you to feel much better about things. Focus on their qualities – and not the other person’s.
- Be compassionate and understanding with yourself. Emotional wounding always takes its toll on you. It leaves you feeling beaten, and torn up inside.
- Decide not to think about the story again. You’re hurting yourself more by going over it. CHoose to think about the people who bring joy to your life, and the life experiences that leave you feeling proud.
- Remember that the meaning of “forgiveness” is “unite”… And you want to be free from all that person and the pain. So, decide to untie yourself, and move on with your life.