Have you ever noticed that Rolls Royce and Bentley don’t have commercials? Well they know the value of their product brings customers to them. The lesson is when you know your value, you don’t have to beg people to like you, to be your friend, to spend time with you, or to love you. Be confident in who you are Everyone can’t afford the luxury of your friendship.
If you want 2017 to be your year, don’t sit on the couch and wait for it. Go out. Fucking make a change. Smile more. Be excited. Do more things. Clean your room. Throw away what you have been cluttering. Unfollow negative people on social media. Go to bed early. Wake up early. Kick ass. Every damn day.
Have you ever stayed up late with someone, texting or chatting and the hours ticked by that you’d be ridiculously tired in the morning but it didn’t matter because it was really fun? It was really fun and totally worth losing sleep just to laugh with someone and enjoy their company. And then the next day you keep tiredly recalling how much fun it was while you’re falling asleep in class and that makes it not so bad that you’re tired anymore.
I wonder what it’s like to have someone begging to be with you. I wonder what it’s like to have someone fight for you. What it’s like to love someone and be loved back. What it’s like to be with someone for a whole 365 days. Someone who actually looks into your eyes and sees all your beauty. What its like to feel complete with that person. What it’s like to feel important. What it’s like to feel appreciated. What it’s like to be with someone who won’t give up. What it’s like when someone will hold you when you’re having a hard time. What it’s like when there’s no more heart ache.
Don’t wait around for someone to appreciate you. Don’t wait around for someone to change. Never hope that if you stay for a bit more, hell look at you differently, the way that you always have dreamt it to be. Chances are if he can’t appreciate you as you are today, he never will in the future. So let go. Go somewhere else where your efforts and existence are seen as the light of the day. Have fun being alone or with someone else, it’s up to you. But leave. Pack your bags are never look back. If you don’t, you will never be happy. You won’t be happy knowing that the amount of love and effort that you give him isn’t reciprocated, let alone appreciated. You’ll get tired of expending energy thinking of ways to make him like you. He will be a part of your life that will forever be a mystery, and you need to leave it that way. Don’t try to solve him, don’t try to make yourself fit into his life when he isn’t making room. You don’t deserve his indecisive mind. You don’t deserve his confusing ways. So leave, just leave. And wait for someone who respects the relationship as much as you do. Someone who’s not going to ask you to hang out but go out on a date. Wait for a mature guy who’s going to be flat out clear about his feelings and intention towards you. Wait for the guy who thinks you are his dream girl. Hell come, don’t worry; so for now, just leave.
I think the greatest thing I ever did for myself was to cut the bullshit. I wanted to be happy but I surrounded myself with people who disappointed me, who did not inspire my mind. I wanted to experience real, pragmatic love, but I kept putting my heart into the hands of guys who fumbled with its weight, who wanted something lighter, something easier and less full of fire. I wanted to be free, but I kept limiting myself, thinking that my past had built within my foundations I could not change, hurt I could not release. The best gilf I ever gave myself was the courage to reach out and believe that I could create my own existence, that I could write my own story and everything changed the moment I did. Everything changed when I picked up the pen.
Don’t keep in contact with your ex. It may be hard if they’re the person you would usually go to when something good or bad happens, but this is important, at least until you’re over them emotionally because when you keep in contact with them it almost feels as though you’ve never broke up. It gives you false hope if you hold onto “what if’s.” The first thing you should do when you breakup is block them. There was a tweet on my timeline not that long ago that read “If your ex blocks you, you won.” That is false. Blocking them is the beginning of letting go. If you happen to be at the same place as them at the same time, don’t walk over to them to chat. You will feel like crap and regret it later on, trust me. Don’t be petty either or do stuff to get them to notice you. Please do not go out of your way to find someone “to keep your mind off of them” no one deserves to be used. You’ll never fully forget someone, but with time you’ll eventually get over them completely. You’ll start to ask yourself why am I so pissed over someone who doesn’t give a crap about me and once you keep asking yourself that you’ll soon realize they aren’t really that great.